Dear Abby: Office Illness Concerns

Dear Abby: My workplace recently shifted to a four-day in-office schedule, which is nice for colleague interaction. However, I’ve noticed sick coworkers coming in and potentially spreading their illness. My company provides two weeks for “occasional absences” that can cover sick days or doctor visits. Right now, I’m stuck at home sick.

Honestly, it feels pretty selfish for these colleagues to come in when they’re not well. I doubt anyone is actually raising concerns about this situation. Should we mention it to our office manager? I’m feeling fed up with this whole scenario.

Dear Contributor: It might be a good idea to have a conversation with your office manager. You could propose that anyone feeling unwell receives a note suggesting they wear a mask or just stay home. Many workplaces implement similar practices.

Advice on Supporting a Grandson

Dear Abby: Our 28-year-old grandson has caused us quite a bit of hardship growing up. He lived with us for a time, and now, despite having jobs, he continually asks us for money. We give him around $400 each month, which is quite a topic for debate between my husband and me.

Now he’s living with a girlfriend and has four children. We’re retired, and frankly, it’s becoming overwhelming. I feel empathy for their situation, but it’s becoming unsustainable for us. Any thoughts on this? – Feeling Overwhelmed in Texas

Dear Overwhelmed: I understand your situation. It may be time to stop this financial support before it spirals into further complications. You’ve already been generous, but at some point, he needs to step up and take care of his own family, just like you and your husband have done.

Neighborly Dilemmas

Dear Abby: Our neighbors, “Wanda” and “Bob,” agreed to care for our home and cats while we went on vacation. We expressed that we wanted to compensate them, but Wanda insists they want to help for free. Bob just seems to go along with her.

Honestly, when I inquired about how much they would like, Wanda appeared a bit offended. It’s clear we’d be willing to return the favor, but, honestly, we can take more vacations than they can. I’m not looking to offend anyone, yet I don’t want to take advantage of their kindness. What’s the right move here? – Confused in Oregon

Dear Confused: It seems Wanda and Bob might prefer the rewarding aspects of being good neighbors rather than seeking payment. You could approach Wanda to thank her for watching your home and reinforce that you’d gladly return the favor when possible. Perhaps, consider bringing them a little gift from your trip that they might enjoy. It’s a nice way to acknowledge what they’ve done.