AI Girlfriends and the New Generation’s Preferences
In 2024, predictions from tech enthusiasts suggested that “AI girlfriends” could rake in $1 billion. Now, it appears that younger generations are actually diving into that future.
A recent study reveals that boys from Generation Alpha, aged 12 to 16, might prefer a robot girlfriend over facing the ups and downs of real-life relationships. This survey, conducted with 1,000 participants, showed that 85% had interacted with a chatbot, while 20% were aware of peers “dating” an AI. Additionally, over a quarter favored the emotional connection offered by a bot over that of a human partner.
Interestingly, about 58% of these young boys mentioned that AI makes interactions easier for them because they feel like they can “control the conversation.” This raises some eyebrows, as experts note that the allure of AI relationships lies in the consistent responses and absence of rejection they provide.
According to Nicholas Verotta, head of research at Aria, the AI’s validation and tireless attention can feel very intimate to adolescent boys striving to understand themselves. He explains that there’s a clear temptation when it comes to AI, especially as this demographic is caught between conflicting views of masculinity.
Verotta elaborates, stating that young men are caught in a tug-of-war between the traditional ideals of male dominance and the modern perception that men are often responsible for many issues surrounding gender dynamics. As such, they may find themselves looking for reassurance from technology as they navigate these challenging expectations.
It’s easy to see why these young boys might turn to technology that welcomes them without judgment, particularly when the voices around them may feel demanding or dismissive.
A separate survey conducted in May 2025 found that around 52% of teens in the U.S. use chatbots at least once a month, primarily for practicing conversations, expressing emotions, and working through relationships. This trend leans even more toward boys, who generally have fewer opportunities to practice emotional expression and intimacy compared to girls.
Verotta believes that AI can have therapeutic benefits when used correctly and with clear boundaries, serving to enhance rather than replace real-life relationships. However, he cautions that AI, as sophisticated as it is, remains a pattern-matching system designed to keep people engaged. If young boys mistake it for something more human, they may face feelings of isolation later on.
In a 2024 survey, nearly 20% of Americans reported flirting with chatbots, while a concerning statistic highlighted that over 45% of Gen Z men have never asked someone out in real life.
Verotta describes dating as a high-stakes scenario filled with risks and potential for misunderstanding. Encouraging boys to be more thoughtful and intentional in their interactions is important, but that requires practice, which inherently includes taking risks.
He argues that engaging in real-world relationships can help develop vital skills, like negotiation and empathy, which are crucial for a satisfying adult life. Real interactions can be challenging—awkward and even humiliating at times—but they offer opportunities for growth.
Verotta warns that relying solely on AI for social interaction could hinder development. He believes that skipping these formative experiences may lead to difficulties in love, work, and everyday social situations.
