A newly released letter between iconic “I Love Lucy” stars Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz offers fans an insightful look into their complex love story.
Having been married for two decades, Ball and Arnaz’s romance didn’t just sparkle—it was filled with deep emotion, doubts, and enduring affection, as unveiled in their recent book, “Lucy and Desi: Love Letters.”
This particular letter, made public on November 4, features messages written largely during World War II, shortly after their nuptials. Some earlier notes reveal that their relationship extended far beyond the allure of Hollywood.
Interestingly, their marriage was marked by controversy, with Ball reportedly having several affairs. The couple frequently separated only to reconcile repeatedly.
Ultimately, their relationship came to a definitive end in 1960.
Ball and Arnaz’s heartfelt correspondence illustrates themes of jealousy, trust, and forgiveness that shaped America’s beloved couple on screen.
October 27, 1940
In one of the early letters, Ball urged Arnaz not to give in to temptation while on tour with his band.
“Digi Arnaz, you haven’t replied to my letters! Are you just going to toss them aside and forget everything I said? I’m trying to send you this telegram, and if you don’t respond, I’ll feel pretty sad tonight,” Ball penned in her handwriting.
She added, “Don’t mess up these next few months with women I can’t stand—choose them over me? It’s just not worth it. Are you looking after yourself? Are you getting some rest? I really wish I could make you happy without having to keep track of every minute like we’re on some kind of countdown.”
Furthermore, Ball requested Arnaz to share more about his day-to-day experiences.
“I can’t say goodbye yet, so if you could give me a bit more time, that would be great. But, could you also be a little clearer in your next letter? Tell me what you truly think about us while you’re flying around New York. I mean, not just what you’ll do next and when, but your thoughts on us, as I keep asking. Anyway, I need to go now. All my love to you, my baby.”
June 7, 1943
By 1943, trust issues still plagued the couple. The “Here’s Lucy” star began taking Catholic Catechism classes in preparation for their second wedding. They would marry again on June 19, 1949.
“I have a special request that means a lot to me,” Ball wrote to Arnaz at the time. “If you don’t get a response on the phone before the letter arrives, please make sure to reply to this. I’m starting my two weeks of classes with Father English either tonight or tomorrow. So, as a favor, could you please commit to just two weeks? That’s all I need. Just clear your mind of any superstitions.”
She continued, “Please, Desi-san, don’t get upset with me for these two weeks. Don’t have any doubts about me. Just cleanse your thoughts and give me a fresh start. After that, if you want to revert to distrust, you can. But… please let this be your contribution while I work with Father English. I need an honest response soon, or I won’t be able to start.”
From Anza Camp, June 11, 1943
Arnaz replied with kindness and affection.
His response stated: “I’m so proud of you for following Father English’s guidance and getting married again when you’re ready. Will you marry me again, sweetheart? I love you even more now than the first time. I’m proud of you, and I love you too. I can see us having at least a few kids. I couldn’t wish for anything better.”
Despite their renewed vows, Ball and Arnaz’s tumultuous relationship ultimately ended in divorce in 1960. Following that, Ball married comedian Gary Morton in 1961, while Arnaz wed Edith “Edie” Mac Hirsch in 1963.
