A Reddit user who says she was given a “curfew” by her college roommate received reassurance from other people on Reddit that she doesn’t have to follow these rules because she’s an adult and can do what she wants. I got it.
“I’m a freshman in college, living in a dorm, and randomly assigned roommates. We live completely different lifestyles,” Reddit user “Tequila and Mayo,” known as AITA, wrote this week. (“I’m an A–hole”) he wrote in a post to the subreddit.
“I like to stay up late and sleep late, but she likes to go to bed early and wake up early,” the woman said.
In a post titled “AITA for disobeying my roommate’s curfew,” the woman wrote that she and her roommate had agreed in advance that “the lights could be turned off at any time and we would be quiet afterwards.”
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She said her roommate sleeps between 9 p.m. and 11 p.m., adding, “I often get ready for bed. [lie] Out of respect, I stay in bed at this hour. ”
The woman added: “But usually two (or) three nights a week, one of which is a weekday, I’m up and out past this time.”
She said the Reddit user and her roommate (not pictured) have “completely different lifestyles,” and described the personal dilemma they face. (St. Petersburg)
When this happens, “I just turn off the lights and crawl into bed when I get home,” usually between midnight and 3 a.m.
Three weeks ago, Tequila and Mayo’s roommate “told me that she didn’t want me to stay up late because it would affect my sleep, and that she wanted me to be home by 12:00,” she said.
Tequila and Mayo’s friends teased her about it, but she said she still respected her roommate’s wishes and “left parties, study sessions, and hangouts early to get home on time.”
But things collided earlier this week.
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“On Monday night, I was playing a board game with a friend and lost track of time. Before I knew it, it was 12:30, so in honor of her, I spent the night with my friends in the common room. I decided to spend some time,” she said. she said.
Tequila and Mayo wrote that she returned to her dorm room at 8:15 a.m. to get ready for the day and take a shower.
“But later that day I got an angry email,” she said. I was up at that time anyway,” she said.
The two women were randomly assigned to the same room in a dormitory (not pictured). Reddit user Tequila&Mayo said she compromised on her roommate’s sleep schedule and did her best to keep her civil. (St. Petersburg)
Tequila and Mayo added, “She responded and apologized for what she had caused, but I explained that I had been out all night for her and had done nothing wrong.” I compromised and also explained that I would be back at midnight most nights, time permitting.” He was polite and sometimes came back at night. ”
Despite the apology, her roommate told her that “she had scheduled a meeting with a friend of ours.” [resident assistant] “Mediate the situation.”
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“Honestly, I want to know if I’m wrong, if it’s her fault, or if it’s just a bad situation,” the woman wrote on Reddit. “Any advice is welcome. Thank you.”
Fox News Digital has reached out to Tequilaandmayo for further comment and updates.
A marriage and family therapist told Fox News Digital that given the information available, Tequila and Mayo’s roommate is at fault in this situation.
The roommates (not pictured) will soon be meeting with the resident assistant to discuss nighttime habits and sleep times. (St. Petersburg)
“It’s unreasonable for authors to have to compromise their desire to stay out late to accommodate a roommate,” said Rachel Goldberg, LMFT, founder of Rachel Goldberg Therapy in Los Angeles. he told Fox News Digital in an email.
Since they’re both freshmen in college, “this may be the roommate’s first experience dealing with conflict over lifestyle choices outside of their family dynamics,” Goldberg said.
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He added: “Her approach at this point seems to include an attempt to exercise control, which is not conducive to healthy roommate dynamics or real-world problem solving.”
In future mediations, she said, “I should let my roommate know that while I will continue to be extremely quiet to respect her roommate’s desire for sleep, I do not intend to sacrifice her freedom of choice when it comes to staying up late.” said.
Women “need to communicate” [that] She’s not willing to sacrifice her agency when she’s out late at night. ”
Goldberg says her roommate may have feelings of “envy, or FOMO” toward Tequila and Mayo for staying out so late at night, which could further influence her behavior. It is said that there is a sex.
“Finally, I would also like to think about why authors are so generous, whether they are afraid of facing backlash or disappointing someone,” she said.
Reddit users largely agreed with Goldberg, telling Tekilandmayo that she handled the situation perfectly and that her roommate wasn’t being fair.
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In the AITA subreddit, users can reply to posts and post comments such as “NTA” (“not an A–hole”), “YTA” (“you are an A–hole”), “NAH” (” ”). There’s no “A-holes Here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone Sucks Here”).
Users can upvote answers they find helpful and downvote answers they don’t.
Readers of Reddit’s AITA subreddit overwhelmingly said Tequilaandmayo was right in this situation. (St. Petersburg)
More than 500 people responded to the post, nearly all of whom said tequila and mayo was an “NTA” in this situation.
“Definitely NTA. Your roommate is delusional. You are free to come and go as you please. You pay tuition, room and board just like your roommate,” wrote a Reddit user. Peony-Pony,” said the top upvote reply.
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The same user continued, “If your roommate thinks they can control other people’s actions, they’re as unrealistic as they are entitled to it.”
“RAs will have a good laugh about this with other RAs.”
Others noted that the resident assistant may find the whole situation humorous.
Redditor “lilolememe” said in another top comment, “RAs will have a good laugh about this with other RAs.”
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Your roommate says, “She doesn’t get to decide when you get home. She doesn’t have the right to judge you if you stay out all night. You’re an adult and you can do what you want.”
Lilorememe added: “We have to respect the quiet time, so of course turning on lights and making loud noises is prohibited.”
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The commenter added that Tequila and Mayo was “very polite and controlled.”
Another Reddit user named “Remember1959” wrote, “I wish I could see the look on RA’s face when he hears this…As others have said, your roommate is not your mother.” I wrote.
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