If you think that your precious arrival comes here, you are doomed due to lack of sleep, spousal arguments, and poverty, then you may be. Alternatively, you can follow the hard-earned wisdom of Tri-State parents to make the transition to parent-child relationship a little or even a lot easier.
I'll ride it
Stephanie Jack, 34, Director of Brand Marketing for Infant Formula Brands ByheartI want my new NYC parents to know that it's okay to get home from the hospital.
“As someone other than cars in the city, there was a lot of anxiety about how we would return our babies home. Taxi? Rideshare? Walk? How does the car seat work?” said Jack, who lives in Cobble Hill, Brooklyn. Luckily she said their family (including their daughter Adelaide, now born in February) was introduced Nunapipa The Urbn System (starting at $700) is a car seat and stroller that enters and exits from ride-shares.
“No base installation required [to the car] It was amazing considering the day we left the hospital we poured out in less than a minute,” Jack shared.
Jack's second parent revelation? “Understanding stroller walks and swinging to rock your baby. Early postpartum, getting fresh air is a lifesaver.”
Class Method
Silla Gelmann Corranky, 31, from Greenpoint, Brooklyn, welcomed her son, Atlas in September 2024.
First: “The lack of sleep shocked me. Why – I don't know why anyone warned me, but for the first two months I didn't fully grasp that it was rising every two hours with my newborn,” Gelman Kolansky said. “What saved me was getting in and breaking into a friend with the help so I could take a nap,” she added.
Second, Germain Kolanski hoped that someone told her to take more classes during her maternity leave. “The newborn stage can feel so isolated and endless. I regret not going to any further class,” she said. canopyTheatre space in Williamsburg is an “amazing space for babies” with indoor playgrounds and baby classes running a range from musical Hebrew to baby and me yoga.
Tap a group
Michelle Solomon (35), a native of Princeton, New Jersey, is a mother at home up to the age of five, with her youngest child turning 1 year old.
Prior to the parent-child relationship, she regrets not knowing how much fun the hospital-run mom baby group is. Before you roll your eyes, consider that these programs often serve the purpose of a dual role.
“Pen Medicine will be running in Princeton A bright beginningand we took the baby for an expert lecture, and all moms and babies went out for lunch,” blogger Solomon said. Recipes from Michel. “I made some amazing new mom friends. I heard experts from pediatricians, baby food specialists, music class teachers, stroller training, postpartum Pilates instructors and more.”
Check which hospitals are delivering to you to see which classes and support groups are available.
Solomon also learned that the whole motto “it takes the village” is in something.
“I wish I had known it was okay to accept help. To get my family to help with the laundry, to hire a cleaning lady… to find a babysitter,” she recalls. “But Mom needs help. In the end I was so happy to do all of this.”
Solomon also urged his new mom to “have her daddy be her dad.”
“My husband is a great father and we will be different parents, but it's okay that he is different from me and not micromanaged,” she said.
Roger, Type A mom?
Everyone is different
Rachel Malone, 40, of Lamson, New Jersey, welcomed her daughter Devon in January and offered her point of view alongside her By-Hart colleague and fellow new mom, Jack.
Perhaps most poignant, Malone, the company's senior director of product and e-commerce, would have wanted to hear that parenting advice doesn't fit all.
Some of the most notable advice didn't work for her daughter, she said.
“In the beginning I questioned what I was wrong. Now I've learned to take inspiration from external sources, then trust my instincts to know what's best,” she said.
Malone also encouraged new parents to look for hyperlocal community resources.
“Where I live there are community-based Facebook groups, reliable newsletters (screams, Monma Mama! ) And it's a newcomer club where I connect with people, look for parenting advice and share tips that I worked for me,” she said.
