Dear Abby: My husband ignored my MS and put me at risk for COVID

Dear Abby

Two years ago, my husband learned that his adult child’s partner tested positive for COVID-19 just two days before we were supposed to meet. He chose not to tell me. At that time, neither of us had contracted the virus, and we were being very careful about it.

I have multiple sclerosis, which makes me vulnerable to various viruses. My husband knows this, and it’s left me feeling confused and angry that he thought it would be better for me to be on our son’s good side rather than letting me make an informed decision about a potentially dangerous situation.

The gravity struck me when, while driving to our apartment, my son apologized to my husband, mentioning that his partner was in danger of the virus. I was taken aback and speechless, but I remained quiet until we had a moment alone.

When I confronted my husband, he dismissed it as not being a “big deal,” arguing that we wouldn’t be there long and that I would likely decline the visit anyway, which he believed would “ruin it for everyone.” Frankly, I’m contemplating divorce because it seems he doesn’t grasp the severity of my health condition and was hiding information that could have serious consequences for me.

Is this behavior as serious as I believe, or am I overreacting? We’ve been together for 40 years, and while we’ve generally had a solid relationship, we started young. His blatant disregard for my health and the way he handled the situation might just be unforgivable. What do you think?

Dear Wife

Is your husband’s lapse in judgment a one-time issue or part of a pattern? You mentioned “ruining everyone’s visit.” But really, your son’s partner wasn’t in a state to entertain anyone. Thankfully, the situation didn’t turn catastrophic. It’s advisable to consult both your doctor and possibly a lawyer regarding your concerns.

Dear Abby

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend, Matt, for three years. Initially, things were wonderful; we seemed to share a lot of interests. However, I have a son, and it’s just been the two of us for quite a while, creating a close bond. Matt, on the other hand, doesn’t like that. He often makes hurtful comments about my parenting. My son tends to hide away in his room, and it’s becoming uncomfortable. We co-own a house, and I feel trapped. We’ve witnessed Matt’s harsh side, and I can’t do this anymore. How do I have a heart-to-heart while continuing to support my son?