Dear Abby

My father, who is 82, is still living alone without any assistance. While he’s generally healthy, he’s starting to accept that he won’t be around forever. One thing he really wants to do—while he still can, or thinks he can—is take a solo road trip to visit his sister across the country.

He often drives short distances of two to three hours and believes he can manage a 2,000-mile trip by breaking it up over several days. However, I think that’s a risky choice. He tends to underestimate how tiring it can be after a long day on the road, not to mention the extra energy needed to navigate new areas. I’m concerned about the possibility of an accident or him getting lost.

After discussing my concerns and suggesting safer alternatives, I offered to cover a plane ticket for him. Unfortunately, he’s not keen on the idea of maneuvering through the airport or dealing with an unfamiliar rental car upon arrival. I even proposed to join him, but he wants to stay for an extended period, and there’s no space for me at my aunt’s home.

Dad is set on making this journey but is anxious about leaving without notifying anyone. What if I can’t change his mind? We don’t live close, and I don’t have access to his keys, but this feels strange, doesn’t it? — Ohio Disaster

Dear Ohio Disaster: Whether or not you believe your father’s plans are unwise, he’s going to travel regardless. That said, you can definitely offer some support and guidance.

Help him plan his trip. Look up hotels or motels along the way and assist him in making reservations. Establish a deal where he calls you each evening to check in and let you know he’s safe. It might take some effort on your part, but the peace of mind from tracking his progress will be invaluable.

Dear Abby

My youngest child, who is just starting his teenage years, struggles to make and maintain friendships. However, he recently made a new friend about three weeks ago. I met the friend’s mother once, and we exchanged a few texts about the kids and their schedules.

My mother keeps asking me for financial assistance. Our situations are quite similar; she’s a divorced, single parent with no contact or support from my father. Recently, she reached out asking for extra cash for gas and to help cover a trip for a funeral out of state. Even though I live in a decent house, I’m barely managing to pay for it and all my other expenses. I’ve told her as much, yet the requests keep coming.

I don’t want to be rude, but I feel like being more straightforward is necessary. However, I’m concerned about the potential impact on my children’s friendships. How can I approach it without causing trouble? — Dollar and Sense

Dear Dollar and Sense: Avoid the temptation to be too blunt. Simply tell her that, unfortunately, you don’t have the financial ability to help at this time. If she asks again, you can just repeat your previous response as needed.

Dear Abby was established by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and continues the legacy of her mother, Pauline Phillips.